By Allie Word

David Coleman spoke to students and faculty of East Tennessee State University about one issue that concerns many – relationships.

He gave aid to those concerned about dating Feb. 17 at an open lecture in the D.P. Culp Center auditorium.

“I would like to help them find their hmmm,” said Coleman, otherwise known as "The Dating Doctor."

Long-distance relationships can be hard. Coleman informed his audience that there are struggles one must realize and overcome when dealing with this type of bond.

People cannot maintain their connection with forced communication. Another big struggle that may be faced is the lack of physical affection. Because many enjoy their significant other’s care, when it is gone they may reach out to find it somewhere closer.

“Women tend to want what they cannot have,” said Coleman.

There are positives to being the “bad guy.” By being a little mysterious, a guy is able to intrigue a woman. After she is captivated she will be chasing after him.

Coleman also told the nice guys out there that smothering or appearing too desperate can drive women away. His advice was to slowly find out the woman’s interests. He said that the last thing a woman wants is a guy who knows more about her than she does.

The vital part of Coleman’s lecture was to help others establish healthy relationships. The five characteristics of a healthy relationship are: trust, respect, intimacy, passion and commitment.

Coleman said that without these five qualities the relationship has no real chance at lasting success. With all of these aspects, a relationship is strong and stable.

There was one issue Coleman said was important and without it a person will find it extremely difficult to maintain a relationship.

He was talking about self-confidence and poise. It is harder for someone with low self-esteem to enter the dating world. This is because the person may have more trust issues once he or she is actually in a relationship.

During the lecture students did a quick activity that Coleman uses to help his audience loosen up. It ended up comically revealing how they see themselves, how they want others to see them and how they view sex.

The Dating Doctor’s humorous stories also helped relax the audience. Several students were able to openly talk about their everyday relationship struggles. He gave advice and answered their questions about sex, dating and even flirting.

Coleman has spoken to more than 2 million people and has traveled to many colleges around the United States. He received his master of arts in college student personnel administration. Coleman has also been recognized for the National Collegiate Speaker of the Year award twelve times.

Coleman’s website, www.datingdoctor.com, can be used as a tool for those with quick questions. Simply navigate to the relationship advice section and read his recommendations on different topics.

Several of his books, such as “Date Smart!” and “Making Relationships Matter,” are available for purchase on his web page.